We’ve all heard the quotes “Good things happen outside of the comfort zone” and “Life happens on the other side of the comfort zone” and “step outside the comfort zone.” But the truth is, it’s not that easy. We can’t just wake up one day and instantly have the comfort zone lines a million miles behind us as we walk into our future success with that Beyoncé confidence.
To widen the comfort zone we have to test the waters but first we need to establish where exactly the line is for us. How confident are we? What makes us nervous? By knowing what put us into that uncomfortable frame of mind we know where to start.
A lot of people can feel a wave of shyness when they meet new people, kind of as a fear of the unknown. Many questions come into play such as “Will they like me?” “What will they think of me?” “What will they think of my outfit? Hair? Make-up?” etc. But the truth is it doesn’t matter and those people will be too busy worrying about what you’re think about them to worry about you.
For me, I realised my comfort zone around others was limited when I wasn’t wearing any make-up. This is mainly because my face tends to turn an unflattering shade of red when I see someone I know. I get instantly uncomfortable about how I look and end up becoming all flustered.
I also noticed I felt uncomfortable when taking the plunge into trying new things which is normal and common among a lot of people. So, after feeling restricted for long enough it was time to make a change. I decided to:
CHALLENGE MY COMFORT ZONE ONCE A DAY
I call this my “comfort zone task of the day” as it’s a nice way to put it and can easily fit onto your to-do list. The pros to testing the comfort zone this way is that it isn’t overwhelming or too scary. It challenges you every day so over time you build confidence, stretch the comfort zone, and all without even realising.
So here are my main tips:
- Start with something small. This can be as little as taking a trip to the shop without any make-up on. Or going and having a coffee by yourself in a café.
- Make these tasks a bit more uncomfortable every week.
- Think of the things you have rejected because you felt too shy but really wanted to do and find a way to try them. Maybe in a few weeks when you are feeling more confident but don’t put them off for too much longer or you might end up forgetting.
- Reward yourself after you’ve completed the challenge. This will make you feel good about yourself so you’ll want to keep doing more.
- Try not to over think anything. By doing one task at a time you don’t have too much to think about and that way you won’t overwhelm yourself with anxious thoughts.
- Note down how you felt after doing the challenge. Was it as bad as you thought it would be? Did you enjoy it? This was you can remember the feelings for next time you get nervous.