Small External Steps for a Self Confidence Boost


Nowadays it is so easy to overlook the small things that hinder our confidence. Instead of trying to root them out and fix them, we cover them up.

We can alter so much of our appearance without any extreme methods of surgery these days and although it’s all innocent experimentation and fun, you shouldn’t let these things define you.

Make-up is magic, I hope we can all agree on that. It can hide all manner of sins like the unfortunate dark circles that have been left lingering after possibly too much fun and not enough sleep. But since the 2015 arise to fame for contouring, we have the ability to even change the structure of our faces.

That’s not all we can do. We can also change the colour of our skin with a darker shade of foundation and fake tan (obviously much healthier than the UV rays from a sunbed) and I have been guilty of the fake tanning addiction too. So with all the options for alterations and enhancements we can apply to ourselves, why is there such a high level of low self-confidence amongst us girls?

I can’t answer that question however I can give you some small and simple external steps to take to enhance the natural side of yourself:

  • Skin

Foundation and concealer are wonderful like I mentioned above, they can cover any discolouration and even out the skin tone. But what they can’t do is undo the bumpy texture of the skin. Well, not in any method that I’ve tried.

From my own personal experience I’ve found that not having the best skin with unfortunate spots popping up in odd places can give self-confidence a real knock. The key factors that should be taken note of for improving skin are diet and hygiene. I will be writing a more in depth post about this too so watch this space.

  • Hair

I don’t think there is a particular way we have to style or colour our hair for it to look nice. What I do think can be important is being aware of what colour suits you. (But if you’re the type of person who enjoys switching it up regularly then power to you, you only live once right?)

The health of our hair can also hugely impact its appearance and those pesky split ends are especially noticeable on dark hair, unfortunate for us brunettes. To avoid dry and damaged hair use a heat protection when styling and ensure regular trims. You can even trim your own hair and save yourself the extra £15, it’s surprisingly easy!

  • Teeth

We aren’t all blessed with a perfect set of straight pearly white teeth (this I’ve dealt with first hand). My teeth have always been an insecurity of mine and I have always been conscious of my smile. But we don’t have to pay a bomb for braces to have nice teeth. Hygiene plays a huge roll.

Growing up we are told by parents to brush our teeth twice a day, morning and night. It’s surprising how many people don’t carry this on into later life and how many people only brush their teeth in the morning.

Create a teeth brushing routine for yourself and do it twice every day. Dental floss, mouth wash, a good tooth paste and a toothbrush that works (it doesn’t have to be electric) all lead to a healthy smile. Also, if you’re an avid fizzy drink fan try and cut down or save them till the weekend.

Whitening teeth can also improve a smile and oil pulling with coconut oil is a cheap and affective way to achieve a whiter smile.

  • Eyebrows

We all know how important eyebrows are thanks to 2015. When I was younger it was all about who could have the thinnest eyebrows but now it’s quite the opposite. The winner has the thickest brows. But when is thin too thin and thick too thick? Maybe we should steer clear of the trends and try to find a suitable balance.

I found that my brows started to look their best when I grew them out to the natural shape and just plucked a few pesky hairs that popped up in odd places. I think the natural shape is a great outline and it means filling them is much easier.

  • Fitness

By now you probably know that I follow a plant based vegan lifestyle (click here to find out more) and by being healthy plant based means I don’t have to do excessive amounts of exercise; just half an hour around 5 times a week.

I find that just by walking to more places instead driving and taking the stairs instead of the lift are simple ways to being more active in everyday life.

  • Hygiene

My sister used to say “personal hygiene cost nothing.” But of course it costs something, a good deodorant these days can cost £5 (Sure Women Maximum Protection – I swear by this stuff.) However she does have a point as it doesn’t have to cost much and is something we should prioritise.

I feel more confident when I know I’m protected and have showered in the morning. Small steps to feeling cleaner can really improve your mood and leave room to worry about bigger things.

  • Nails

Keeping nails manicured is very important to many people but for me it’s all about keeping it low maintenance. Just a quick file here and there is all they need for keeping a neat shape.

I used to always paint them my favourite nude shade (OPI – Tickle my Francey) because I’m not a fan of brightly coloured nails on myself. But I didn’t like how my nails were turning yellow and I was getting an ink stain on the right hand ring finger from so much writing.

Nails don’t have to be long to look healthy and great, keep them filed into shape. If your nail polish chips then take it off and start again. It’s an opportunity for a new colour and painting nails can be quite relaxing.

  • Foundation Colour

This is something I over looked for a very long time. I was wearing a colour that was about 3 shades darker than my skin tone and blending it down my neck.

In all honesty I am yet to master how to match foundation shades correctly but I noticed an improvement in my make up when picking a lighter colour. My base looked instantly less patchy and I didn’t have to pile it on so heavily.


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  1. 26th April 2016 / 11:26 am

    These are some fantastic tips – I agree, good personal hygiene is so important to feel confident. Also, a pair of heels seems to work for me 🙂
    – Ambar | Her Little Loves

    • Melissa Birch
      26th April 2016 / 11:27 am

      Thank you so glad you enjoyed it 🙂 and yes excellent point! XO

  2. 3rd May 2016 / 12:28 pm

    SO TRUE THOUGH! I feel like we sometimes focus so much on internal things that we totally forget how much little external steps can change! I do feel so much better when I wear foundation for example because my skin is rather bad and it always makes me super self-concious when people can see my zits and not-so-clear skin!

    Thank you so much for this post!

    Love, Kerstin |

    • Melissa Birch
      3rd May 2016 / 12:48 pm

      I know the feeling I’ve suffered from breakouts in the past too! I do think it’s important to focus on internal things too but external things can be a bit easier sometimes! Thank you for the comment 🙂
      – MELISSA, XO

  3. 9th June 2016 / 5:43 pm

    I love these confidence booster posts and you have some really good tips here! :’) I feel more confident when I have perfume on as well as other personal hygiene stuff. Just adds a more elegant touch or just a nice girly scent :’) x

    • Melissa Birch
      9th June 2016 / 6:31 pm

      Thank you that’s very nice of you to say 🙂

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