Whilst having the usual morning scroll through social media accounts, Instagram and Twitter to be more precise, it’s not uncommon to fall across one of those “How I think I look VS How I really look” pictures. They’re used so innocently to create light humour or as a way to be relatable to many girls, but no one really mentions how many misconceptions you face due to actually having a “Resting Bitch Face.”
It can cause minor problems in real day to day life whether you’re walking past people on the street, or in an interview, because it opens doors to many pre judgements from others. Most of which are often incorrect. A handful of popular comments we have probably faced are “oh she looks stuck up” or “why don’t you smile more” “someone’s not happy today”
Erm actually, I’m fine, this is just my face.
Judging is something we are all guilty of but that’s for another post. Today I wanted to discuss the problems faced from living with a resting bitch face:
I’ll start with the obvious – Looking like a bitch.
What comes with looking like a bitch? People presume you’re mean or bitchy! Bitchy in a sense of saying nasty things behind peoples back or thinking things about them. When in fact you might not be like that at all. You could be admiring someone’s outfit or hair but appear to be giving a “dirty look.”
No, actually I was just checking out your shoes.
This leads to other misconceptions like:
People thinking you’re stuck up. I haven’t ever really known a pure definition for the statement “stuck up” so here is Urban Dictionary’s definition “Person who thinks they’re better than everyone else, except within their clique of friends. Most often a stuck up person is also really fake, they are also extremely conceited”
So appearing “Stuck up” snowballs into also being fake and conceited and other related words such as snob, arrogant, snooty, snotty, and pretentious. Ouch.
No wonder people don’t like us instantly. You know when you’re in front of a new group of people, maybe in a lecture or a new job, and you instantly notice the smiley person who’s nice to everyone? They kind of radiate light in a dim lit room. Well, having a face that looks insanely bitchy can unfortunately have the opposite effect. It means we have to make more of a conscious effort to speak to others which can be uncomfortable, especially if you’re mostly introverted (ever though I don’t like labels).
It can make it harder to make friends due to looking unapproachable. And being called unapproachable can be extremely offensive. I see it as more of an opinion rather than a fact because you might be very approachable when somebody makes the effort. Ever been faced with the “You’re so much nicer than I thought you would be!” comment?
Looking miserable, rude, and disinterested. These are three things I’m concerned about when I’m walking past people on the street, walking through a door someone’s holding open for me, or listening to someone speak etc. First of all I think it’s important not to dwell on what strangers think of you when you’re just going about the day minding your own business. However, like everybody else, we need to remember our manners. Also remember we are not unhappy, mardy girls; we are well mannered, well turned out, highly intelligent young women with great potential. Am I right??
So when around other people it’s a good idea to make more of a conscious effort to smile. It can be annoying and you may feel like you look overly enthusiastic whilst having a giant jaw ache. But unfortunately people do judge so smile because you’re doing great. And smiling has been linking to increasing happiness levels too.